SACRAMENTO REGION, CA (MPG) - Romantic relationships between teenagers are incredibly complicated. The undertaking of a relationship very often requires more maturity than most teens have developed. These relationships are more likely to be riddled with problems that include communication, jealousy and selflessness.

As a result, teenagers are more likely to be involved in relationships that are unhealthy, violent and/or abusive. If you are a teenager involved in a romantic relationship, it is important to understand the behaviors that could point to an unhealthy and/or abusive relationship. 

Unhealthy or abusive relationships take many forms and there is not one specific behavior that causes a relationship to be categorized as such. However, there are certain behaviors that should be cause for concern. Parents, watch out for red flags. Red flags include excessive jealousy or insecurity, invasions of your teen’s privacy, unexpected bouts of anger or rage, unusual moodiness, pressuring a partner into unwanted sexual activity, being blamed for problems in the relationship and not taking any responsibility for the same, controlling tendencies, preventing your teen from going out with or talking to other people, constantly monitoring your teen’s whereabouts and checking in to see what your teen is doing and who your teen is with, vandalizing or ruining personal property, taunting or bullying, or threatening or causing physical violence.

If your partner frequently engages in these behaviors, it may be wise to speak with someone with whom you feel comfortable. Adults who have experience with relationships may be able to provide advice that can help you to determine if you are in any danger. 

Teens, if your partner exhibits any of the behaviors outlined above or if your partner has physically harmed you in any way, there are many things you can do. Trust your gut – if you think you are in danger or in an unhealthy relationship, you should end it. If you are afraid of confronting your partner or fearful of what they may say or do, there are numerous resources you can contact for help, guidance or counseling. If you think you are in an abusive relationship, you should consider reaching out to a trusted friend, teacher, parent or mentor; spending more time with individuals with whom you are comfortable; getting involved with activities you enjoy that will allow you to associate with positive people; seek the guidance of a school counselor or therapist; or calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233). 

Studies have found that negative or abusive behaviors in unhealthy relationships are more likely to increase over time. Abuse escalates as the relationship progresses and victims are more likely to sustain substantial injuries or harm. If you believe that you may be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, do not hesitate to ask for help. Teenage dating violence is more common than you know; you are not alone. 

Data above is from teendvmonth.org/resources/signs-teen-dating-violence.

Soroptimist International is committed to end all forms of violence that affect women and girls disproportionately. Gender-based violence occurs in the family and in the general community. Whatever form it takes, gender-based violence is deeply rooted in historical inequalities, power imbalances and gender-based discrimination. Gender based violence is a violation of human rights and affects the ability of women and girls to reach their full potential and participate in society. 

Soroptimists say that awareness and education are powerful tools to stop intimate partner violence in all its forms. If your teen has an abusive partner or if you just suspect they might, we encourage you or your teen to contact WEAVE’s 24-hour hotline at 916-920-2952, the Sacramento Family Justice Center at 916-875-HOPE (4673) or call 2-1-1. Ensuring that women and girls have the opportunity and ability to complete school and earn a livelihood plays a significant role in reducing vulnerability. 

Soroptimist is an international nonprofit organization that seeks to improve the lives of women and girls through programs leading to social and economic empowerment. The name, Soroptimist, means “best for women,” and that’s what the organization strives to achieve. Soroptimists are people at their best, working to help other women to be their best. Email [email protected] to receive more information about Soroptimist International of Rancho Cordova & Gold River, to become a member or to learn how you can volunteer with our club members or visit.